Why marrying late in life is a good thing.
So you are a romantic, and have a ton of love to share. Nothing is more wonderful to you than being in love.
The truth is, some people find love in their twenties or earlier, others find love later, much later. And that’s okay.
Here’s why I think marrying later in life is probably a good thing.
1. You can identify the real diamond
As we grow older, our ability to discern gets sharper. So, when you find the real deal, you know he or she is a keeper. You also realize true love is rarer than the rarest of diamonds. Furthermore, you realize the real diamond is the love, kindness and integrity of your partner and his or her ability to nourish and nurture your soul. It is not merely the value of the rock that sits on the woman’s finger.
2. You invest time in yourself
You can focus on building a career, discovering and pursuing your passions and interests. Take that salsa class or teach one, pursue your passion for solo traveling, join red cross or volunteer passionately for a cause you believe in, start a business, be the best at your workplace, win national level awards. Join a community or passion project and immerse yourself in it. Give yourself the gift of time to do all your heart desires, with singular focus.
3. Time is a big teacher
As you go along meeting people, making and releasing relationships, you will discover the traits and qualities that you truly seek in a partner. You will become more aware of the things that matter and those that don’t. The checklist of characteristics you sought in a partner, which you created at age 25 begins to look feeble and silly at age 35.
4. You don’t feel the need to be ‘right’ all the time
It’s more important to be nice than be right. This is not about pleasing others at the cost of your self -esteem. You realize, with maturity, that it’s okay to lose some arguments and welcome other perspectives. One cannot be right all the time. A lot of times relationships flounder because of our inability to go beyond self righteous resentment! Letting go comes easier as one gets wiser ( not just older). As they say, in love: the one who loses, wins!
5. Work Hard and Save Hard earned money
Since your focus is primarily yourself and not your spouse and a family to raise, you can begin practicing saving money and perhaps plan for an early retirement by investing smartly!
6. You become more self aware
You discover parts of your personality that may require fine tuning. This doesn’t mean that we become less of ourselves, it means we become less of those parts of ourselves, that doesn’t serve us in relating with others, and we become more of those traits what does help us in our various relationships.
The quality of our life is the quality our relationships.
Sometimes, waiting for the right time and the right person, is better than finding someone early in life. Trust the process.
